I’m thrilled to welcome a new addition to Bridal Musing’s team of
contributors. Meet the lovely Sama, our resident wedding dress expert.
Sama is a bridal consultant at top London bridal boutique, Blackburn Bridal Couture, where she helps stylish brides, just like you, to choose their dream dress. She is also a bride to be herself and editor of The Utter Blog where she obsesses about all things weddings. (A girl after my own heart).
Lucky for us she will be stopping by regularly with her hints tips and advice on finding the perfect wedding dress – straight from the fitting room!
Well, hello there Bridal Muso’s, and thank you so much Elizabeth
for inviting me on to your gorgeous blog! For those who don’t know me
(erm… probably 99% of you), my name is Sama and I’m lucky enough to work
at the utterly fabulous Blackburn Bridal Couture – one of London’s BEST
bridal boutiques, if I say so myself.
I’ve been there a couple of years now, and it really is a
wonderful job with a wonderful team, and despite my fears that it would
put me off weddings for life, it absolutely hasn’t. I genuinely love
helping brides find their wedding dress, and I’m pleased to say I’ve
come a long way since my very first day when, channeling my inner
professional woman, I turned up in a little black number and 4″ heels.
(Note to self: do not wear stilettos in a job where you barely sit down.)
The gorgeous Blackburn Bridal Couture, London
Not only do I now work in the industry, but I’m a bride-to-be
myself (just over 4 months to go – yikes!) so have experienced the highs
and lows of dress shopping from both sides of the fitting room curtain,
so to speak.
For me, the essence of my job comes down to building a
relationship with the person standing semi-naked in front of me and
listening to what they have to say; to finding out all about their
wedding plans and becoming their confidante when Mum is screaming
‘you’re too exposed!’ or friends are thinking more about what they’d
wear rather than the person they’ve come to support.
Wedding dress shopping is an emotional minefield; at times
enjoyable but more often than not stressful and bloody confusing! Every
bridal shop works differently and your experiences will vary greatly.
You have been warned.
So to kick off this series on Bridal Musings, I thought I’d condense everything I’ve learnt in the last couple of years in to one Top-Tip style post.
It may seem brutal at points but I consider it essential reading
for all brides-to-be out there about to make the biggest purchase of
their life. I hope you find it helpful…
*Disclaimer: These are my personal views, please take lightly*
1. Wedding dresses are expensive - do your research.
Scrap that – wedding dresses are bloody expensive. Before working
in bridal I’d always imagined I’d spend around £1000 on a dress but in
reality the choice at that price point is really very limited. We meet a
lot of brides who have started dress shopping with a figure in their
heads and have quickly upped it when they’ve realised what they get for
their money. There’s a lot of fabric in a wedding dress, and good
quality fabric comes at a cost. Do your research. When you see a wedding
dress you like the look of in a blog or magazine, ring the shop and
find out the price. Once you have an idea of how much you’re going to
spend, call the shops you have your eye on and make sure your price
range fits with theirs. There’s no point going to a shop that starts
from £2k if your maximum budget is £1500.
2. Have a budget and stick to it.
At my boutique we always ask if there is a budget at the
beginning of the consultation. This is not to judge you and laugh you
out of the shop if you don’t have a huge spend. This is to keep your
shopping experience enjoyable and positive and, ultimately, to help you
find a dress. Yes, you want to try on the most expensive dress in the
shop – of course you do, it’s beautiful – but what will you do if you
like it more than any other dress you try? It’s very unlikely that
you’re going to buy it. It’s more likely you’ll get depressed. Everyone
has a budget, even if you don’t think you do. Try and establish what
you’re seriously prepared to spend up to, and stick to it.
Elizabeth Messina via Once Wed
3. Keep your guests to a minimum – and choose wisely!
Dress shopping is supposed to be fun. The temptation is to gather
a group of your friends and family and to spend a lovely day ‘oohing’
and ‘ahhing’ and quaffing champagne together. But the reality is
slightly different – a) very few shops actually offer champagne (sorry
to disappoint you), and b) do you really want 5 different opinions? Are
you sure you want to be zipped in to a dress that puts a big smile on
your face, only to be told ‘No!’ or ‘I don’t like that one’, as you step
out of the changing room? We would always advise doing the initial
round of shops either on your own or with one person who you trust
implicitly (mum, sister, best friend etc). Once you have established
what you want and made a short list (short list I said – that’s 3, not
12) of your favourite dresses, then you can ask your wider circle for
their valued opinions.
4. To sample sale or not to sample sale…
I’m going to be blunt here: if you have more than 6 months to go
’til your wedding and a healthy spend, don’t bother with a sample sale.
Sample sales are fantastic for brides who are short of time or have a
very limited budget. But if you have a specific idea of what you’re
after (“vintage lace with a v-neck, and possibly 3/4 length sleeves”),
then you’re very unlikely to find it at a sale. Dresses being sold as
samples are generally those that have been discontinued by the designer
or have proved unpopular in the shop. That gorgeous Jenny Packham gown
that you’re seeing all over the magazines? It’s not gonna be in the
sample sale (sorry). But most importantly, don’t go to a sample sale if
you’re at the start of your dress shopping journey as it’s very unlikely
you’ll be ready to buy a dress that day, and you will be pressured to
do so.
5. Trust your sales consultant – she is very wise.
Or she should be, if she’s any good at her job! No-one knows the
dresses better than the person helping you. She’s not a Jedi Knight –
she won’t necessarily pull out the dress of your dreams the moment you
walk in. But when you’re approaching the end of your consultation and
you’ve ‘quite liked’ some but haven’t gone crazy over any, and your
friends are running round plucking more off the rails that they like but
have no idea what they look like on, turn to the lady helping you and
ask ‘what would you recommend?’. If she knows her stuff she should, at
that point, be able to suggest something that ticks most or all of the
boxes, but that you didn’t necessarily pick out at the beginning of the
consultation.
Elizabeth Messina via Style Unveiled
6. ‘It’s how you feel, not how you look.’
This has actually become my mantra at work but it’s true. There
is a reason that many bridal shops do not allow you to take photos: 1-
There is a copyright issue. 2- Photos taken on a camera phone in a beige
room under dodgy, artificial lighting when you have no make-up on and
your sister is too close/far away/rubbish at taking photos are not going
to be a true representation of how you actually look in the dress. You
do not need to remember every single dress you try on; you will
naturally remember (maybe not in detail, but you will remember) the
dresses that felt the best. And they are the ones that you put on your
short list and visit again. I have seen too many confused brides who
have image after image on their phones and who are dismissing dresses
because ‘my arm looks fat’ or ‘the third flower from the left is too
big’. If it doesn’t feel right, it probably doesn’t look right. If it
does feel right, and by this I mean if it makes you feel sexy or elegant
or demure or relaxed or however you want to feel on your wedding day,
well then, you’re on your way to finding your dress.
7. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
I’m not diminishing the importance of The Wedding Dress here. It
is, after all, the most amount of money you will ever spend on an item
of clothing, ever. But when you have narrowed it down to your final
three and you’re stressing out because you love them all and you don’t
know how you’re ever going to choose… Stop. Take a step back and say to
yourself: ‘It’s just a dress. It’s just a lovely dress that makes me
feel happy and special and that I’m going to wear the day I marry
Bob/Jamie/Tarquin.’ Because that’s why you’re having a wedding after
all; to marry the love of your life. And he’s just going to be happy
that you’ve turned up.
Thanks so much Sama, those are some super helpful insider tips right there!
Now for those of you who prefer your wedding planning in bite sized chunks, here’s a pinnable / cut out and keep version of Sama’s essential dress shopping tips:
Please do let us know if you have any wedding dress related questions
or you’d like advice on a particular aspect of wedding dress shopping
or style.
Sama and I are all ears and we’d love to hear from you. So don’t be shy, leave us a question or comment below!
ps. I highly recommend hopping over to The Utter Blog for even more of Sama’s lovely, bubbly musings on her upcoming wedding and exciting new ventures.
pps. There’s a whole host of other talented wedding industry experts
I’m also looking forward to welcoming, who will be sharing their
exclusive insider tips with all you lovely Bridal Musings readers. More
info to come very soon but for now let’s just say I’m excited!
Old style wedding dresses was the top-end most
famous dressing style in Great Britain at the times. Every bridal
couples were very excited in using this style. But, not all couples
could wear this style in their wedding ceremony because these dresses
were only worn by the kingdom. So, there are a lot of people who rarely
know about this. By reading this article, hopefully can help people in
this century in giving a reference to their wedding plan.
If you’re a fan of Say Yes to the Dress,
you’ve undoubtedly seen a bride who’s tried on 100+ dresses without
finding the right one. Most brides try on between four and seven gowns,
said DeMarco, and shouldn’t try on more than 10, because it can lead to
confusion.
But
don’t be totally discouraged: Sometimes you truly can find an amazing
gown at a bargain price. Kimberly Sanicki, of Wanaque, NJ, found her
perfect wedding gown (left) at a “Running of the Brides” event thrown by Filene’s Basement. She found a stunning Essense of Australia gown for just $500, marked down from $3,000.
Before handing over the cash, Kimberly and her mom thoroughly examined
the gown to check for any flaws. “My mom made sure it had every crystal,
and it did not need to be cleaned or even hemmed,” said Sanicki.
